How to Meet the Partner of Your Dreams

Would you like to find out what those-in-the-know have to

say about Dating? The information in the article below

comes straight from well-informed experts with special

knowledge about Dating.



1. Online Dating Safety



We have all heard the story on the news about a person who

decided to meet up with another individual they had chatted

with online, and never returned home. These occurrences are

abnormal when it comes to online dating, but here are a few

tips to make sure that your online dating experience is fun

and safe.



Make sure to trust your instinct. If you have a gut feeling

that something may not be right about the other person,

stick with your instinct. You should always feel comfortable

with whoever you are chatting. If someone is abusive, block

them immediately. There are plenty of other personal ads to

look through, so take your time and view a good number of

them.



Before agreeing to a date, make sure you know as much as

possible. Never publish your phone number or email address

in personal ads. Additionally, don't provide your home or

work address to anyone you have not met. Don't allow

yourself to be talked into anything…you are the one in

charge!



Take your time to get to know someone…don't feel rushed. A

patient person will be happy to wait until you are ready to

meet. Chat on the phone for a while before arranging a date

to get to know each other.



When it comes to the actual date, there are a few things to

keep in mind. Always meet in a public place that is well

known and convenient to you. You will want to tell a friend

where you are going and who you are meeting. Always carry

a cell phone on a date, and if possible, phone your friend

during the date to confirm that everything is fine. Try to

meet at lunchtime, which is convenient, and have a time

limit. Make your own travel arrangements. Don't accept a

ride home on the first date or reveal your address. Keep

the date to a time limit so that you have an 'exit' point.

This way, if you're feeling uncomfortable, you can politely

leave.



2. Dating Do's and Don'ts



We've all been on a date before and wondered whether or not

you should or should not do or say something. As much as we

would like to deny it, there are some unwritten dating 'rules'

that everyone should follow…which will make everyone, male

and female, much more comfortable and content with a date.



First, there are some things everyone should do on dates.

There is the obvious first impression. Try to look your best and

be punctual. No one wants to date an irresponsible slob. To go

the other way, flatter and compliment your date on the way

they look and the things they wear. People tend to put in a lot

of effort for a date, so being told that they look nice is

always good to hear.



Have fun when dating. Be interested and interesting. Make

sure to tell someone if you are not interested in dating them

again. Being lied to and hopes kept alive is an evil and malicious

act. If you don't want to see them again, let them know that in

the nicest possible way you can.



Date the type of people you like and are attracted to, whatever

your friends may say. Stay positive even when dates don't end

well. You will meet some nice people and probably make some

good contacts.



Dating is a creative diversion, it requires concentration and

energy so when you are dating keep some plans in the

forefront of your mind and allow dating to take you to

places you always wanted to visit within your own city.



Make dating happen for yourself. People will not come and

ring your bell from nowhere. Dating requires positive

action so go out there and meet people, as many people as

you can. Practice your chat and flirting on shop workers,

bar attendants, anywhere and everywhere. Being nice to

people is very sexy and great fun.



Surround yourself with positive like minded people who are

also dating. Think about the girls from Sex and the City and

how they assist each other in dating and matters of

romance. Negative friends who don't condone the dating

scene or don't understand it will only help lower your own

expectations and make you feel negative.



3. Dating Etiquette



How many times have you watched one of those dating shows

on TV and thought, "I can't believe he/she just did/said

that?!?!" To avoid making similar mistakes on your next

date, stick with some of the following ideas…



Eye contact is crucial when dating, so it is good etiquette

to provide as much attention as possible to your date. They

should feel as if they are the only person in the room. Be

a listener and do not talk your date to death, particularly

if you are male.



Listening shows interest and the ability to compromise. If

your idea of a date is talking about yourself and your

opinions all night then do your date a favor and stay at

home alone. Be courteous and complimentary. Your date

has made an effort for you and your personal opinions

aren't quite welcome at this stage.



Also to this end, always turn up for a date unless you have

given plenty of time for it to be canceled. Standing

someone up is rude, and not appropriate adult behavior. Try

to turn up on time, and don't keep your date waiting. If

your transportation is unreliable, get going in plenty of

time. Being punctual shows respect for your date and shows

your responsibility.



Try to avoid being opinionated or arrogant on a date and try

to avoid discussions about politics and religion on the first

date. You will come across badly to your date if you act like

this.



Additionally, don't be rude to others on a date. You are

trying to show your good side, so arguing about a service

charge or whether the wine is chilled enough will make you

look like a fool. And remember…arguing with the waiter is a

big no-no.



In terms of appearance, make an effort to dress well.

There is no excuse to look bad. Poor dress shows laziness

and will do nothing to promote you. Also, try to be fresh

and smell good. You should be shaven, bathed and smell

good. It will cost you nothing more than a bottle of quality

cologne and some shower gel. Just make sure not to

over-do it with the cologne!



4. Having Confidence



No one wants a date with someone with low self esteem and a

negative self image. Try to makeover your self confidence

and learn how to be a desirable date with these ideas…



If you base what you do on inaccurate information, you

might be unpleasantly surprised by the consequences. Make

sure you get the whole Dating story from informed sources.



Make a list addressing all the things you are not comfortable

with about yourself. Be honest. Establish which things people

may not like about you and get an honest second opinion.

Change the things that are easy first, and ensure you are

comfortable with any alterations.



Address the way you look and dress. By changing the basic

aspects of your looks, lifestyle and regimen, you will

instantly feel more confident. By looking and feeling good

about yourself and widening your horizons your life has

already changed for the better and your confidence levels

are on the up.



There are a few changes that can be made in your daily

life. Make sure you are in shape or attempting to be. If

you are dieting or exercising, remember to be patient as

these changes will take a little while.



Also, start doing things you wish you always had the

courage to do…maybe a hobby, sport, class or society.

Learn to enjoy the smaller things in life and give yourself

time especially for these things.



If you like to cook for friends, then start having dinner

parties.



Start dating…if someone has asked you out, accept. If

not, be proactive and ask someone out yourself who you like.

Just do it, and accept the fact that some people will say

no…but many will also say yes.



Begin to make conversation with the nice people you meet

along the way. Become sociable and look good at every

opportunity.



Now start to be selective about what kind of people you

really like. But by the same token, talk to everyone. The

more people who are interested, the higher your confidence

levels.



Remember to stay away from people that bring you down or

criticize you. Whether a friend or a potential date, you

deserve better. Walk away from anything you don't like and

instill a positive attitude in everything that you do.



5. Romance 101



What woman doesn't want to be treated to a little romance

every once in a while? Many women will agree that romance

is all about the details. Small gestures really do make a

normal night out into something romantic. So listen up…

because these tips are sure earn you some points…



The key to being romantic is thoughtfulness…so start being

a little less selfish. Learn that mood, location, situation

and ambience can heighten romance with dramatic effect.



Communicate with your partner on every level and anticipate

their desires and needs. Look at your partner when they are

talking and hold their gaze.



Try doing little things to get right at your partner's soft

spot. Phone just to say hello, I love you and give your

partner a nice surprise.



Send them notes and small cards telling them you are thinking

of them.



Be spontaneous and do little deeds that show you care.

Bring home take out from their favorite restaurant or take

them to their favorite ice cream shop.



Flowers are always a nice touch at any time of year. Be

creative and pick out their favorite colors and types for a

personal touch.



Remember birthdays, anniversaries and landmark days

such as the day your first met or first kissed, and plan

something…maybe a return to the first date location.



Listen to clues that your partner might drop, such as

their favorite dessert or books they like, and surprise

them with little gifts.



Learn how to hug, cuddle and make physical contact. Dance

together when the occasion arises. Hold hands and do

anything to make your partner feel close to you.



Write him/her a letter and let them know that you love them

and you mean it. Use nice stationary, or make your own

card, which shows thought and inspiration.



In terms of dates, learn how to cook your partner's

favorite dish. Plan a surprise candlelit dinner followed by

a romantic movie. Take your partner on a picnic to the park

or beach and prepare in advance without involving them.

This initiative is very romantic.



Now might be a good time to write down the main points

covered above. The act of putting it down on paper will

help you remember what's important about Dating.



Resources: For a more in depth guide to dating, you

must see the CHRISTIAN DATING HANDBOOK and the

bonus publication: http://tinyurl.com/adkvd